If you asked me 6 months ago if I would be in the situation with O that I am now, I would laugh hysterically. My horse? A spooky stopper? Hell, I probably would’ve joked that my quiet little mare wouldn’t have the energy or interest to try to unseat anyone.And then she dumped one person….and another… My trainer was sick and tired of watching our rides fall to pieces, and pretty much told me flat out that O needs something we obviously aren’t giving her.
So I called in the reinforcements.
Or rather, my in-laws.
Unlike the typical rom-com stereotype, I adore my in-laws and value their opinions in all matters. Their advice and knowledge of horses is a wonderful perk to have in the family. They raise, train, and work all of their own horses and commonly keep a herd of 8-14 horses around to help work on their ranch. My husbands grandfather was a quarter horse breeder, and obviously his father is my farrier-in-law that commonly swoops in to help with O’s feet.
Anyway, maybe you are guessing where this is going….but the final answer is that last week O left for the ranch to spend a few months getting reacquainted with some basics, and to decompress from her stopping issues. I do hate that I’m turning her life upside down, but maybe that what she needs.My husband always says that horses need have a job, and O’s is to be my partner, and do what I ask (within reason). Currently she is flat our refusing to do her job. The in-laws are hoping to let her have a mixture of time to be a horse and de-stress, and be adjusted to a riding lifestyle that will not tolerate her new found attitude and resistance in regards to what her rider is asking. So basically she’s having a summer long come-to-Jesus moment about who is in charge.
Her new roomies at the ranch will include my husband’s mare, which I think is kind of cute. O traveled and arrived well, and is still separated from the bulk of the horses as to properly introduce her. I really, really hope this is what she needs. A chance to hit reset on some of her training, and to learn confidence in herself and her riders. Plus I know she is well looked after by a group of amazing riders.