Riding Mentality

To cut to the chase, this week has sucked.  I feel like bad news had a baby with bad luck and together they made this week.  Horses are sick, being an adult is hard, people are sick, people suck, and somehow I’m just chilling in the middle of it feeling sorry for myself.

So here’s my question.  Where do you draw the line on whether mentally you are fit to ride? BEspecially with a mare, or a sensitive horse, putting yourself in the tack when your mind isn’t in the right spot can be so much worse than not riding.  So opted to not even try.

 I went out last night and didn’t even bother putting on riding clothes.  Instead I grabbed my mud covered beast from her pasture, groomed the heck out of her, and made her pose for pictures.  I was in absolutely no state to be on her back.


O joined my pity party with gusto and allowed me to console myself by shoving treats down her throat and asking her why life was so frickin’ complicated sometimes.  Although she had no answers for my life questions, she looked cute and chomped grass in a rather sympathetic way.  I can’t ask for more than that.  Cheers to a long weekend and new week!  


19 thoughts on “Riding Mentality

  1. 99% of the time I ride no matter how I feel and do my best at leaving my other problems out of the saddle or emotionless. Its tough, it doesn’t always work out. Usually the emotion I tackle with is sadness and that is a lot easier to ride with than anger.

  2. I think you made the right choice, unless you are mentally strong enough to win in a battle of wills with your horse, your day might just get even worse. Horses are a healer though so time spent with them will help you through whatever you are going through. From personal experience they don’t really understand it when i crumble in to tears in front of them wimpering ‘I love you so much, why are you doing this to me?’ When something silly they do is the straw that breaks the camels back! Hope you feel better soon 🙂 xxx

  3. Last week was not great for me either :(. But this week will be better!!!
    Everything starts with calmness. Whether it be anxiety, upset, mad, stressed, etc and can’t push all that aside an be completely calm and and at peace, I don’t ride. It isn’t fair to me and especially not Estella. I don’t ever want to jeopardize our relationship and I know that it starts with mental, emotional, and physical fitness.

  4. Sorry you’re having such a bad week 😦 I tend to ride regardless, as riding helps me focus on something else besides the negative emotions. I hope that things turn around for you quickly!! Adulting sucks sometimes.. er, most of the time.

  5. I’m so sorry your week was so tough. I’ve definitely skipped riding when I’m. Not feeling mentally up for it– no shame in that whatsoever!

  6. I’ve opted out of riding before because of my emotions – nothing wrong with that at all. If you feel like you can’t or shouldn’t ride, don’t. That’s just taking a risk of having a bad ride and someone getting hurt, or just having a bad ride and it ruining your week more. 😉 I’ve done the same thing numerous times. Got my horse cleaned up, took pictures or just hang out.
    I hope this coming week will be much better than the last one! 😦

  7. I’ve absolutely skipped riding when I feel like I can’t separate myself from my emotions. Nothing wrong with that. I’m sure O appreciated your company and your cookies!

  8. Sorry things are so crappy right now – good luck :(. I have a hard time recognizing when I’m not mentally fit to ride but agree that sometimes it’s better to just hang out and not push it

  9. Sorry you had such a tough week! I’m sure your girl was happy to play pretty pony and much all the good things. Its so hard sometimes when to decide if riding will make things better or if you’ll bring the black cloud to your riding. When in doubt, I always play it safe, too 🙂

  10. I have definitely skipped riding when I felt too stressed or upset or angry. Even though being around the horses and riding can help me relax, I usually choose NOT to ride! I end up nitpicking Gina, who is not very forgiving. Moe is more forgiving, but I always feel guilty for treating him poorly because I was stressed out and he wouldn’t leg yield or something stupid!

    I hope this week is off to a good start!!

  11. Sorry you’re going through a rough time. I almost always ride, but if I’m not mentally up for it I will do something super simple like trail ride around the property or do a conditioning ride.

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