Shame on me

I’ll admit that today was the first lesson in a long time (maybe even years) that I was frustrated to the point of wanting to cry in the saddle. I didn’t. But yes, the frustration was overwhelming!

In a good note-O was sound and looking fancy in her new shoes.
Okay now onto the potential tear inducing issues.
O has had some attitude issues lately, and I’ve met and talked to our trainer and secondary trainer/barn manager about it. Well today I think we found the root of the issue. Me. Just frickin’ great.

We discovered today that I’ve started to push/force O into a frame; and out of resentment she is acting out, being sour, and avoiding work by any means necessary. Back to the basics we go…I’m going to work on my equitation and using my seat and leg to guide her into the correct form-ASKING her, not demanding. Once I was finally able to wrap my head around it tonight she was a completely different horse. It’s 10x worse when it’s you doing something stupid that is hindering your ride.

My equitation, lord help me, is atrocious. It’s been so long since I’ve had to focus on myself, that I’ve become the problem. Definitely working on strengthening my core and being able to help to by maintaining a consistent position and feel in the saddle. By doing that I hope I’ll be able to help her balance and soften. Fingers crossed!

Now that I’ve had some time since my ride to absorb things, and am feeling a bit less like a total failure at life. I’m ready to get back on and try to reconnect with O and work on my own riding.


8 thoughts on “Shame on me

  1. Haha, my terrible-ness in sitting the canter transitions has ruined them… back to no stirrup work and two-point for me! (thank god you can stay out of the tack in hunters… unfortunately for dressage I have to sit down and ask him to come under himself, which he doesn’t like, which ends in me bouncing all over the place and a complete mess). I was literally to the point of tears at my last lesson because I knew it was me. It’s not a good feeling. BUT, you will improve, and it’ll be much better 🙂 good luck!

    • Thanks for the comment! It’s always nice to learn I’m not the only one that is struggling with this. I may take a page from your dressage book and try to really sit back on her; she’s already a little downhill so we are hoping the further back I sit, the more she will naturally draw up under herself. Hopefully! But oh Lordy-O is SUPER uncomfortable at the canter, so it’s gonna be a killer core workout (and probably lots of awkward bouncing on my part). 🙂

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  2. The sitting back advice is very good. I had the same frustrating problem with my horse and I found that riding bareback really helped. If you lean forward you end up on the withers….OUCH! So you have to learn to sit back. Once I ‘got’ that, getting a frame and staying balanced was sooo much easier, LOL. Still not perfect, but at least I’m better than I was.
    Good luck with this.

    • Wow that is a great idea! I actually attempted to go out this morning and give the bareback a try, pending some issues, I didn’t have a chance. It’s on my agenda for tomorrow though! Thanks for the advice! I’m excited to try it! 🙂

      • It was the final ‘straw’ I needed to get my balance sorted out. I still like to do it once a month or so. I would love to know how it works out for you, so please keep me posted!

      • No stirrup work helps you similarly- if you happen to have a razor-sharp withered thoroughbred like me… sometimes I miss my fat quarter horse 😉 I’d like to eventually get a bareback pad!

      • I was thinking the same thing about stirrups/bareback. I may take off my stirrups for a few rides, and sprinkle in some bareback work. My chunk of a horse is thankfully round enough I shouldn’t have to worry about her withers! Mostly dreading the fact that she is really one of the most uncomfortable horses to ride, she has this ridiculously bouncy canter/trot. Ouch!

      • My horse had very high withers, although he was a bit rounder if I sat farther back on him. I also had an arthritic older TB I rode bareback–a bit like riding a 2×4 board. What I discovered is that when you find your balance and merge it with the balance of the horse the ride smooths out to a whole new level. The horses movement becomes smoother, freer more ‘springy’ than jarring or harsh. Like trotting on a bed of moss. And when this happens your back stops fighting the movement and begins to encourage it so that it gets even better. The horses impulsion improves so each stride stays in the air longer which smooths the ride even more.
        Most of the problem with my horse’s horrible short stride ended up originating with me. I was fighting the movement rather than flowing with it. ARGH!! So much to discover and such a short life! And, of course, the horse doesn’t have the muscle to carry that for more than a few strides or a few minutes at first. Frustrating because I wanted it ALL THE TIME! LOL.

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